"Self-sufficiency does not mean 'going back' to the acceptance of a lower standard of living. On the contrary, it is the striving for a higher standard of living, for food that is organically grown and good, for the good life in pleasant surroundings... and for the satisfaction that comes from doing difficult and intricate jobs well and successfully." John Seymour ~ Self Sufficiency 2003

Friday, 2 March 2012

The ripples in the water...

... spread out further...


As I mentioned in my post of 29th February, I have some wonderful news to share with you all.  Actually, there are two things...


They both have to do, firstly with NGirl, MKid and WGuy - we are travelling up to the farm next week (8th - 11th March) in order for, amongst other things, to afford WGuy the opportunity of formally asking RMan for NGirl's hand in marriage.  They are planning on getting married on the 11th May this year.  RMan, RSon and I will be flying up to Johannesburg for the wedding, and to look after MKid whilst the newlyweds take a short honeymoon.

It is, and has been, difficult and frustrating to fulfil my maternal role at this stage of my daughter's life, due to the distance between Cape Town and Johannesburg.  There are so many things that a mother and daughter do in the planning of her wedding – such as helping her choose the material for her dress, and the dressmaker, sourcing a venue for the reception and visiting it to confirm it's suitability, or even arranging for the flowers has not been feasible.  I am grateful to WGuy’s mother that she has been able to fill my shoes in this regard.  We are all so incredibly excited about the occasion - we are absolutely over the moon, and very, very happy for our daughter, and I, personally, and I can’t wait to welcome my future son-in-law into our family.


I am also proud that both NGirl and WGuy are being so very sensible and are not going overboard on their wedding, but are rather keeping it intimate and exquisitely simple, and are putting any excess funds they have into their future lives together.  RMan and I did the same - in fact we only went on our honeymoon after 12 years of marriage.  For although it is the most special day (especially in a female) life, to go into debt at the start of a new chapter of your life has never made sense to me, and obviously NGirl is of the same opinion.

And the other part of this good news posting is that NGirl and WGuy confided to us last Christmas that they also want to find their own piece of land in our area of the Western Cape.  They want to travel the eco-route from the start of their lives together, reducing their impact on this planet through utilizing solar power, becoming self-sustainable and building a home using as many eco-friendly methods as are available in this country.
One of the potential sites for the start
of their new lives together
Whoopeee!  I reckon that our aim to illustrate to our children and grandson, that an eco-friendlier lifestyle is not that drastic a change and provides for a comfortable lifestyle, has achieved its’ goal.  The fact they are choosing that path for their new life together as a family is the greatest compliment that RMan and I could ever have asked for.

So, apart from the very important question which is to be put to RMan, they also want to spend the rest of the weekend viewing land in the area.  They are hoping to move back down to the Western Cape in June / July this year.

I am so incredibly happy for, and proud of, my children.


Postscript:  I think it is more than time for a name change.  From here on out NGirl will be known as DD (Dear Daughter) - it doesn't seem right to call a married woman NGirl :)

31 comments:

Frogdancer said...

Congratulations!

tami said...

Wonderful post Dani...Congratulations on welcoming your son-in-law into your family. I'm also excited to hear that they're interested in duplicating your Eco-Journey. A wonderful compliment indeed!

Dani said...

Thanks - I'll pass them on to DD too :)

Dani said...

Tami - Thanks :) I'm blown away LOL

John said...

Congrats to you folks and the newly-weds to be. Sounds as if they will be starting out right.

1st Man said...

Wow how exciting for you all! I can "hear" the happiness in your writing. Congratuations to everyone!

Jody said...

Your post reads like a modern fairy tale come true. I'm so glad your family is doing so well. Great work!

Mum said...

Congratulations, I'm so pleased to you and your family.
Love from Mum
xx

Jane @ Hard Work Homestead said...

How exciting. Congratulations.:)

Linda said...

Congratulations Dani! What wonderful news and it's fabulous that your daughter will be living closer to you. I hope none of my children ever move far away. Family is so special!

garden girl said...

Congratulations Dani! They sound like a sensible couple - I wish them well for their future together.

Energiser Bunny said...

That is beyond exciting for you Dani - especially as they are looking for land near you!! It will be a fabulous journey to have as an extended family. Right now our 16 year old son thinks we are mad doing what we do. I'm hoping that one day, he'll see things differently and come to value to life that we are working hard to create. You are very blessed.

Dani said...

John - Thank you. It does, doesn't it :)

Dani said...

1st Man - Thanks - I'll pass your wishes on. If you think I'm happy, you should see those two :)

Dani said...

Jody - That's exactly what it is - a modern Fairy Tale :)

Dani said...

Mum - Thanks :)

Dani said...

Jane - Thanks - It's sooo cool :)

Dani said...

Linda - Thanks :) It's not "lekker" (nice) at all when they're on the other side of the country - so can't wait :)

Dani said...

GG - Thanks - I'll pass your wishes along :)

Mrs. Mac said...

I'm so happy for the soon to be newlyweds .. and the extended family that will be nearby. What a great start to their life together.

Dani said...

Thanks, Mrs Mac. We're all very happy too LOL

Dani said...

EB - Thanks. Tell you a secret, DD also thought we were mad when we purchased the plot... So, it's even nicer that she now understands where we're coming from / going to LOL Can't wait for us all to be closer together again :)

Leigh said...

Congratulations on your daughter's engagement! Her ring is lovely. And it sounds like they have sensible heads on their shoulders. That will last them far longer than the memory of a fancy wedding. Very excited for you!

Dani said...

Leigh thanks :) It is gorgeous, isn't it.

Exactly - a fancy wedding is just that - a fancy wedding. But, taking care of your futures - well, that's a whole other deck of cards ;)

Stitchin' time said...

Congratulations on your DD's engagement!
Lovely ring and a lovely spot they are thinking of settling in the future.
I came across this today http://www.macquariedictionary.com.au/anonymous@919E41517774/-/p/dict/WOTY11/index.html?
and thought you may be interested as now you can say that 'fracking' is in a dictionary and does mention groundwater contamination.
Cheers, Robyn

Stitchin' time said...

Eeek, I didn't know blogger was going to justify the text!! Sorry about that :(.
Rob

Gill - That British Woman said...

that is such good news. Our dd got married last November, so I know the excitement that you are experiencing.

Gill in Canada

Dani said...

Robyn - Thanks. And THANKS for the link :)

Dani said...

Gill - LOL - excitement doesn't cover it... ;)

Astra said...

Ugh... I wrote a big long comment congratulating you on your exciting news and saying how happy I am for you that your daughter has chosen a path so similar to yours an dthat you'll be able to be closer together in the future. But when I came back to see your reply it wasnt here... anyway I am so happy for you and I think your daughters choice is a testament to what amazing parents you must be :)

Dani said...

Astra - LOL guess that happens to a lot of us - thanks for commenting again :)

Thank you for your kind words too - I appreciate them very much.